Making Eyes

Eyes are the gateway to the soul. This past weekend I attended a beautiful wedding. The couple did not have to say I love you to each other because I could see it in their eyes. Just by their eye contact I knew how much they cared for each other and that they were happy to be together.
Eye contact is a nonverbal form of communication that is of outmost importance when engaging in conversation whether on a date or in an interview. Pupils dilate when a person is aroused and studies have proven that people with dilated pupils are more attractive. As one of my coworkers mentioned, making eyes at someone across the room draws you to that person and gives you a glimpse of their magnetic personality. Eye contact is an essential part to a good date. If there is a lack of eye contact, then the date can go horribly bad.
My roommate, Erica, came home irritated the other night because Josh, a guy she has gone on a couple of dates with, looked at her in the eye only a hand full of times during their two hour date. Josh was facing the door and Erica was facing the back of the restaurant. Josh kept on looking past Erica at people going in and out of the door and at the people seated around him. He seemed distracted and inattentive to Erica. Erica asked him if there was something wrong. He said no, and shrugged his shoulders while looking down to cut into a piece of chicken. Erica knew from the lack of eye contact that there was not going to be another wasted evening with Josh. His lack of eye contact was unattractive, but also she knew his attention did not lye on her.
You don’t have to be an intuitive person to understand where your date’s or significant other’s attention is. All you have to do is follow their eyes. How do you act or what do you say when their eyes are focused on another person or the door? Do you imitate them and not give them the satisfaction of attentiveness? Through research, a.k.a. asking my friends, the conclusion is, make it into a joke. Laugh it off and that way you won’t come home irritated like Erica.