First Milestone

“Fine, I’m not going to talk to you all day tomorrow.” I exclaimed to Ruben over the phone. “Ya right! I bet you can’t hold to that promise.” Ruben stated sarcastically back to me. “Oh ya, you want to see? Goodnight.”

I threw the phone on the bed, stomped off to the bathroom, and cursed under my breath. The phrase never go to bed angry now makes sense because it only creates dark circles under ones eyes.

Ruben and I hit our first milestone, the first fight, however, it is worse over the phone because of unknown body language and no eye contact. For a relationship to bloom it is imperative to fight. Through my Masters program I learned that for a team to become a High Performing team they need to go through four stages: Forming, Storming, Norming and Performing. Without the storming stage a relationship, whether professional or personal, won’t move to the next level of understanding each other which is vital for the success of a relationship.

The next day, being the stubborn, hot-headed Scorpion woman I am, I did not call, text or email Ruben. It was hard at first but I found that I was more productive than usual at work and at home. That night I turned off my cell phone and left it at home while I went for a long walk around Brookline. I contemplated why after a long time of not having that special person to talk to everyday, it was hard for me to miss one day of not having some sort of contact with Ruben. I guess it is because I kind of care about him.

Anyway, I stuck to my word and did not contact him, however, he missed me a lot and texted me that night while I was watching my show. I told him I would call him after my show was over. Through this milestone Ruben and I learned a lot about each others communications styles, thresholds and how both of our stubborn personalities hinder our communication. The only aspect of this fight that is missing is the makeup kiss. I guess it will have to wait until I see him in a couple of weeks.