I'm All Set

After two dates with Jake he was not returning my phone call or email. I did not quite understand why because we had great conversations, laughed and enjoyed each others company. When I go on a few dates with a guy and we have a good connection I don’t appreciate being avoided when he is "all set with me". I understand if he is not interested in me, but please let me know. Feedback will be a learning experience for the next guy.

I have been on the receiving end of this conversation and I have given this speech. I think one should be considerate of the other person and let them know that you are just not into them and it will not work out. Once Jake finally returned my phone call we had an honest conversation of why we are not good together but acknowledged that we are in the same circle of people and we should not burn any bridges. Jake and I agreed to be friends. One night this past week Jake was online and I asked him how he was doing. He told me he was doing well and that he was off to a date. Now I understand we are "friends" but I don’t feel comfortable just yet about him telling me his current dating life. There is a certain point where it is okay to be honest about ones current dates, but Jake and I are not there yet it in our “friendship”

There are rules when and where someone should say “I am all set with you”. One should never text it, email it, or say it in public. One should say it over the phone, while they are not distracted and be honest about why they do not think there is potential with that person. People deserve to be acknowledged and not avoided because there is a need for a sense of closure after getting to know someone on a basic level. Just to update my fans, Jake and I are friends, I never heard back from Avi, and I went on a very nice date with Izzy this past weekend.